PROJECTIVE IDENTIFICATION
The coach adapts the clients unowned feelings
as their own.
victim? not me!
coach
client
you!
I am a victim
response
PROJECTION
The client has an unowned feeling or quality,
that they project onto the coach.
victim? not me!
coach
client
you!
TRANFERENCE
The client sees the coach as someone from their past and transfers the same feelings onto them.
mom
coach
client
COUNTER - TRANFERENCE
The coach's reaction to the transference.
mom
coach
client
nurture
response
Relational Dynamics between Client & Coach
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before
moment
afterwards
The Bus Journey
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tijdens
De busreis
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ervoor
nadien
reparatie
schakelen
anticiperen
before
-
space
-
time
-
dress code
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ground
-
open heart
-
bring in MC's
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authority
-
check client
-
check notes
-
check CT
coaching session
now
block
therapeutic window
history
titrate, regulate, embodiment, 1st & 2nd wave, MC work, ...
set somatic marker
moving towards integration
action
steps
now
start
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welcome
-
landing
-
grounding (if needed)
end
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questions
-
reflection
-
close
-
goodbye
-
schedule next meeting
after
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clear self
-
clear space
-
write notes
-
supervision
Framework of a Coaching Session
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1
(welcome)
intake
2
(opening)
3
(therapeutic window)
4
(closing)
titrate, regulate, embodiment, 1st & 2nd wave, MC work, ...
-
welcome
-
landing
-
grounding (if needed)
5
(goodbye)
-
clear self
-
clear space
-
write notes
-
supervision
Framework of a Coaching Session
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(PARA)SYMPATHETIC
SOCIAL ENGAGEMENT
prefrontal cortex
connect to self
connect to other
safely embodied, self & co-regulate, can connect to self and others, acknowledge distress, explore options, reach out for / offer support, resources & resourceful
SOCIAL ENGAGEMENT
prefrontal cortex
mind
please
still present, but starting to rationalise, intellectualise, please, fawn, be nice, appease and try to fit in
SYMPATHETIC
lymbic system
fight
flight
alarmed, hypervigilant, feel out if sync with others, misread cues, listen for sounds, sacrifice social engagement for survival
PARASYMPATHETIC
brainstem
freeze
collapse
dissociate
withdraw, shut down, go through the motions without awareness, disconnect from self, others, feel lost, abandoned, invisible, disappear into a state of not knowing, not feeling, not being
The Nervous System
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(PARA)SYMPATHISCH, SOCIAAL
prefrontale cortex
verbinding
met jezelf
verbinding
met de ander
veilig, zelf & co-regulatie, verbinden zelf & ander, stress erkennen, opties onderzoeken, uitreiken naar en aanbieden van hulp, ...
SOCIALE OMGANG
prefrontale cortex
ratio
pleasen
nog aanwezig, maar start van in het hoofd zitten, intellectualiseren, pleasen, fawnen, lief zijn, aanpassen, erbij willen horen, ...
SYMPATHISCH
limbische systeem
vechten
vluchten
gealarmeerd, waakzaam (geluid), je voelt je niet in sync met anderen, misleest signalen, je geeft sociale omgang op voor veiligheid, ...
PARASYMPATHISCH
breinstam
freeze
neervallen
dissociatie
terugtrekken, shut down, automatische piloot, disconnect van zelf & anderen, verloren, verlaten, onzichtbaar voelen, staat van niet weten, niet voelen, niet zijn, ...
Het Zenuwstelsel
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The Nervous System
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vechten
vluchten
ratio
pleasen
Zenuwstelsel Surfen
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freeze
neervallen
dissociatie
coach
core wounds?
mini characters?
avoidant behaviours?
nervous system?
boundaries?
client
what choices will I make?
Self as Instrument
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dromen
acties
keuzes
lichaam
seksualiteit
sensaties
emoties
gedachten
GEBOORTERECHT
VERANTWOORDELIJK
Ons Domein
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MIJN DOMEIN
ANDER DOMEIN